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The Best States for Romance (The List)

Two researchers looked at a slew of demographic and survey data to come up with rankings for all U.S. states regarding positive relationships. Their findings, detailed online Dec. 21 in the Journal of Research in Personality, revealed that Virginia, for instance, may not be for lovers, as its state slogan would suggest.

The survey data was based on information from 127,070 adults who answered questions about fear of abandonment (attachment anxiety) and discomfort with intimacy, called attachment avoidance. Participants answered questions on a 7-point scale from 1 (strongly agree) to 7 (strongly disagree), such as "I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners," (avoidance); and "I often worry that my partner doesn't really love me," (anxiety). 

The lower the overall score, the better those people are likely to fare in relationships, the researchers suggested. [Read the full story on the survey]

Here's a table of the overall rankings, from best to worst:

StateAnxietyAvoidance
1Mississippi3.062.78
2Utah3.162.77
3Wisconsin3.192.76
4Vermont3.132.77
5Alaska3.132.85
6North Carolina3.252.84
7Delaware3.262.81
8Minnesota3.232.85
9Oregon3.232.85
10California3.282.84
11Maine3.262.86
12Washington3.252.87
13Pennsylvania3.292.83
14Arizona3.232.88
15Oklahoma3.272.87
16Idaho3.262.88
17Florida3.312.85
18Montana3.272.88
19Hawaii3.332.77
20Louisiana3.22.91
21Virginia3.282.88
22Massachusetts3.32.87
23Illinois3.312.87
24Iowa3.32.87
25New Hampshire3.312.87
26New Jersey3.322.86
27Tennessee3.272.92
28New Mexico3.272.93
29Alabama3.312.89
30Arkansas3.292.92
31West Virginia3.422.85
32Georgia3.312.91
33Michigan3.322.89
34Nevada3.263.01
35Connecticut3.372.88
36Nebraska3.322.91
37Wyoming3.332.89
38Maryland3.322.91
39Texas3.352.88
40Missouri3.372.88
41Indiana3.312.96
42New York3.392.89
43Colorado3.332.95
44South Carolina3.322.99
45Ohio3.362.95
46Rhode Island3.352.96
47South Dakota3.332.99
48Kansas3.392.94
49Kentucky3.393
50North Dakota3.443.05